Essential Tips & Tricks to Foster a Great Relationship With Your Nanny
Kim: “Kourtney, you can’t even keep a nanny.”
If your nanny turnover is giving Kardashian levels of drama, it’s time for a reality check. High turnover in private households is common, but it’s not inevitable. At Squad, we specialize in matching families with nannies for long-term success—because trust us, constantly replacing caregivers isn’t just exhausting, it’s disruptive for you and most importantly, your children.
So why do your nannies keep leaving? And more importantly—how can you keep the right one?
📚 Your Expectations Are… Unrealistic
Your nanny is a childcare professional, not a housekeeper, PA, tutor, chef, and dog walker in one. If you’re expecting Mary Poppins and Gordon Ramsay and an elite chauffeur, you might be setting yourself up for failure.
Solution: Clearly define the role before hiring. If you need a hybrid role, be upfront about it. Overloading a single person will only lead to burnout.
🙏 Communication Is Key—And It Needs to Be Respectful
A great nanny is an extension of the parents, and that relationship only works with clear, respectful communication. Nannies aren’t mind-readers, and expecting them to “just know” how you want things done will only lead to frustration on both sides.
Solution: Set up structured check-ins, be upfront about expectations, and foster an open dialogue. A nanny who feels heard and valued will always perform at their best.
👯♀️ Your Parenting Style & Nanny’s Approach Aren’t Aligned
If you’re enforcing one set of rules and your nanny is doing another, it’s chaos for everyone—especially your children. Consistency is key. Kids thrive on stability, and conflicting authority figures create confusion, pushback, and behavioral issues.
Solution: Parents and nannies must be a unified front. Discuss parenting styles before hiring, establish clear household protocols, and make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to discipline, routines, and boundaries.
😵💫 The Work Environment Feels… Tricky
High-pressure households, micromanagement, or constantly shifting rules will send any nanny packing. Even in private service, boundaries matter.
Solution: Treat your nanny like an equal. They are professionals, and their job is as vital as yours. Respect their time off, offer fair compensation, and create an environment where they feel trusted and empowered.
📈 There’s No Room for Growth
Good nannies want career stability too. If there’s no potential for raises, training, or long-term security, they’ll start looking elsewhere.
Solution: Offer incentives for longevity—whether it’s professional development, salary increases, or bonuses. A nanny who feels valued will invest in your family for the long haul.
🏃♀️➡️ The Hiring Process Was Rushed
Desperate hires lead to mismatches. If you’re hiring in a panic, chances are you’re focusing on availability over compatibility.
Solution: Work with us at Squad to ensure the right fit from the start. We focus on compatibility, longevity, and structure, so you’re not repeating this process every few months.
💰 Compensation & Perks Don’t Match the Market
Top-tier nannies are in demand, and if your offer isn’t competitive, they will find a better one.
Solution: Research industry rates and be prepared to offer a package that reflects the level of skill and responsibility required. A great nanny is a game-changer—compensate accordingly.
Squad’s Final Take
If you’re stuck in a revolving door of nannies, the issue likely isn’t just them. A structured, communicative, and respectful household makes all the difference. At Squad, we don’t just place nannies—we help families build lasting, successful household teams.
Need help structuring your home for long-term success? Our consulting services help families create seamless household dynamics that make retention effortless. Because let’s be real—finding a great nanny is one thing. Keeping them? That’s the real win.
